And if I’m a real asshole, than any news reporter who ever wrote a news story about somebody being arrested or being arraigned in court or reporting any other factual information made available to the public in police reports or court documents are real assholes too.
Apparently, the First Amendment is only appropriate if the actions allowed by the First Amendment leave everybody in a favorable light.
Apparently, we should not be allowed to share arrest information about people who are accused of and investigated for child sexual abuse or child rape.
Yes, readers, I am an asshole. And a proud one at that.
I received an email allegedly from Jeanne M. Dollaway. She and her fiance were arrested in MA back in Dec. Leverone, the fiance, was arrested on charges of raping a child, and other things. Dollaway was arrested for accessory after the fact. The news story was delivered to my mail box, as 100’s of stories are each day, and I posted the report on my site.
Apparently, the story about their arrest and arraignment is untrue. ? The reporter seems to have completely fabricated court docs and police reports. According to Ms. Dollaway, anyway.
Yesterday (eight months later), I received an email with the subject line, WRONG!!!!
Dear Lisa,
You ought to be ashamed of yourself!!! For your information this story is untrue. This story is about a sadlyabnormal child who is suicidal, has an eating disorder and has been physically and emotionally abused her whole life. Sadly her whole family doesn’t want anything to do with her. She lives with fake Grandparents and is longing for attention. My daughter was her friend since kindergarten and we (my fiancee, myself and my daughter) were always there for her.
So if you think you are such a good person because you go broadcasting anything and everything in the newspaper then you’d better think again. Because everything you read in the newspaper isn’t true.
I think you should put your efforts into something more substantial and important in life instead of just being naive and cruel as to not know what’s true and what’s not and putting it out there anyway.
Why don’t you put yourself in our position, how would you like it if you were wrongly accused of raping or killing someone and didn’t but it was put in the paper anyway???
That’s so sad and unfair.
no need to sign my name
Now from this email, she assumes that 1) I know what story she is referring to, and 2) that I know who she is. I never considered the fact that she would actually be a part of one of the 1000s of stories on SadlyNormal, and therefore, didn’t bother trying to search anything. But me, being me, and always willing to listen, replied to her email, and asked for clarification. My inquiry begat the following response from the alleged Ms. Dollaway:
It doesn’t matter because it’s not like your going to change it… we’re talking about rape where it says supposedly my fiancee raped my daughters friend……. as I said the girl is very disturbed and always has been… my daughter was right there!!! and she is the type that if something like that was ever going on she wouldn’t just sit there and keep her mouth shut.
the only reason why they arrested my fiancee and me was because the detective in Ashland forced me to make a statement saying it was true or i would go to jail right then and there for 15 years and my daughter was going to be taken away from me. He wasn’t letting me out of the room until I did what he wanted me to do.
anyway it’s so sad that things go into the newspaper just because someone says it true. it’s cruel and not fair. So because of this me and my fiancees names (mind you we do have family with same last names as us) and are names are all slandered. Our families and we are good people.
Hey I agree with the average persons feelings about these types of sick crimes but no one has the right to broadcast something that they really don’t know what the real truth is. I just think you people should think twice about broadcasting things if you really dont’ know.
Again, seriously, how would you feel???
And by the way all you had to do was look at my name on the e-mail to figure out which ad??? come on now.
My psychic abilities failed me at first, but now I know. I know she is somehow part of the story. Although, her name was abbreviated to JeannieD in her email address, I searched. After a few attempts, I found it.
(again, Jeannie, there are 1000’s of “Ads” on my site, and your name just didn’t stand out in my memory. My sincerest apologies.)
I emailed Jeannie immediately, and told her I understood. She was/is (who knows) the fiance of the accused child rapist. Got it. She replied:
you’re a a real asshole
We all know those who stand by the accused… well.. this was my reply:
News is news… and the first amendment ensures our freedom of speech. I don’t know the story, I only know what the news reports. The news reported that you and your fiance were arrested, and what you were arrested for. It doesn’t say whether you are innocent or guilty. I feel no shame. I’m not the one who was arrested…
It has been 8 months since you and James were arrested. What has happened? Anything? Tell me what the courts have said, what the outcomes have been, and I’ll post those. I will need proof… news clips or something will do…
You ask how I would feel… honestly, I don’t know. I know that if my fiance or husband or brother or uncle were accused of sexual abuse or rape of a child, I wouldn’t be so quick to doubt it. I know all too well how the loved ones of the accused react… they don’t want to believe someone they think they know so well can be capable of committing such an atrocity. But let me tell you… they are masters of manipulation, and can wield lies that you couldn’t imagine. And they threaten their victims. Perhaps your own daughter is in some sense a victim. I was a victim of sexual abuse… a survivor… now a warrior. I know too often children don’t tell and live with the pain and suffering for the rest of their lives. You wouldn’t think I was the type to keep my mouth shut about something like that either… but I did. I had to. I was in fear for MY life…
Anyway, Jeannie, I hope your daughter is safe. I hope if your fiance is innocent, he is proven as such. On the flip side, if he is guilty, I hope he rots in hell. And if you are guilty of aiding him in anyway, I hope you join him.
If this makes me an asshole, so be it. I will stand proud as an asshole.
The moral of this story…
Don’t tell me I should be ashamed for repeating news. Don’t tell me I should be ashamed for utilizing the rights granted to me, to us all, by the First Amendment. Don’t tell me I should be ashamed for exposing child rapists for being the monsters they are. Don’t tell me I should keep silent. Silence is no longer an option… it is silence that got us into this mess…
P.S. Did anyone else notice that Ms. Dollaway used the old standby of victim blaming?